LinksWhat are my fears and payoffs?
- Fear of confrontation - I can't handle confrontation - why not? What is my payoff?
1. Wanting to 'be nice' all the time (regardless of how the other person behaves) is a fast-track route to repressed bitterness, and sends clear messages to the insensitive that "I can be treated poorly".
2. Expectation of an angry encounter?
Since I have been hiding my truth—for the greater part of my life, it’s not so easy to just switch gears.
- fear of public speaking - not wanting to make a fool of myself.
- fear of making a fool of myself.
- fear of being disliked
- Fear of confrontation - I can't handle confrontation - why not? What is my payoff?
1. Wanting to 'be nice' all the time (regardless of how the other person behaves) is a fast-track route to repressed bitterness, and sends clear messages to the insensitive that "I can be treated poorly".
2. Expectation of an angry encounter?
Since I have been hiding my truth—for the greater part of my life, it’s not so easy to just switch gears.
- fear of public speaking - not wanting to make a fool of myself.
- fear of making a fool of myself.
- fear of being disliked