The six steps to transmute desire into tangible things.

1. Fix in your mind the exact thing you desire. It is not sufficient merely to say “I want plenty of money.” Be definite as to the amount.

2. Determine exactly what you intend to give in return for the object of your desire. (There is no such reality as “something for nothing”.)

3. Establish a definite date when you intend to possess the object of your desire.

4. Create a definite plan for carrying out your desire, and begin at once, whether you are ready or not, to put this plan into action.

5. Write out a clear, concise statement of the object of your desire, name the time limit for its acquisition, state what you intend to give in return for it, and describe clearly the plan through which you intend to accumulate it.

6. Read your written statement aloud, twice daily, once just before retiring at night, and once after arising in the morning. As you read— see and feel and believe yourself already in possession of the money.

Adapted from Hill, Napoleon (2012-11-01). Think and Grow Rich (p. 27). Start Publishing LLC. Kindle Edition.

Seven Ways to Reclaim Your Power
1. Avoid casting blame on an external force for your bad feelings about life. Nothing outside yourself can control your thinking or your actions.
2. Avoid blaming yourself for not being in control. You are doing the best you can and you are on the way to reclaiming your power.
3. Be aware of when and where you are playing the victim role. Learn the clues that tell you that you are not being responsible for what you are being, having, doing or feeling.
4. Familiarize yourself with your biggest enemy—your Chatterbox. Replace it with a loving internal friend.
5. Figure out the payoffs that keep you “stuck.” Paradoxically, once you find them, you will probably be able quickly to become “unstuck.”
6. Determine what you want in life and act on it. Stop waiting for someone to give it to you. You’ll be waiting a long time.
7. Be aware of the many choices you have—in both actions and feelings—in any situation that comes your way. Choose the path that contributes to your growth and makes you feel at peace with yourself and others.

What are my fears and payoffs?
- Fear of confrontation - I can't handle confrontation - why not? What is my payoff?
1. Wanting to 'be nice' all the time (regardless of how the other person behaves) is a fast-track route to repressed bitterness, and sends clear messages to the insensitive that "I can be treated poorly".
2. Expectation of an angry encounter?
Since I have been hiding my truth—for the greater part of my life, it’s not so easy to just switch gears.

- fear of public speaking - not wanting to make a fool of myself.

- fear of making a fool of myself.

- fear of being disliked

From Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway - page 23

It can be seen that the secret in handling fear is to move yourself from a position of pain to a position of power. The fact that you have the fear then becomes irrelevant.

Let’s talk about the word “power.” Some people say that they do not like the concept of power and want no part of it. It is true that in our world the word “power” has some negative overtones. It often implies control over others, and, unfortunately, is often misused.

The kind of power I am talking about is entirely different. In fact, it makes you less manipulative of those around you, and certainly more loving. I am talking about power within the self. This means power over your perceptions of the world, power over how you react to situations in your life, power to do what is necessary for your own selfgrowth, power to create joy and satisfaction in your life, power to act and power to love.

This kind of power has nothing to do with anyone else. It is not egomania, but a healthy self-love. In fact, egomaniacs have absolutely no feeling of power—thus their compelling need to control those around them. Their lack of power leaves them perpetually in a state of fear, since their survival depends on the outside world. No one is more unloving than a person who can’t own his or her own power. Such people spend their lives trying to pull it out of everyone else. Their need creates all sorts of manipulative behavior.

The kind of power I’m talking about leaves you free, since you don’t expect the rest of the world to fill you up. It’s not the ability to get someone else to do what you want them to do. It’s the ability to get yourself to do what you want to do. If you do not own this kind of power, you lose your sense of peace. You are in a very vulnerable place.

Remember that much of the trick of moving from pain to power is taking action. ACTION IS VERY POWERFUL!

“Angels fly because they take themselves lightly.” It reminds me that you can drop an awful lot of excess baggage if you learn to play with life instead of fight it.

Five Truths about Fear
1. The fear will never go away as long as I continue to grow.
2. The only way to get rid of the fear of doing something is to go out . . . and do it.
3. The only way to feel better about myself is to go out . . . and do it.
4. Not only am I going to experience fear whenever I’m on unfamiliar territory, but so is
everyone else.
5. Pushing through fear is less frightening than living with the underlying fear that comes
from a feeling of helplessness.